November 8, 2010

reckless abandon

Reposting an article I wrote for my friend Laura's blog.  With added thoughts and pictures--because this is my blog and I can say whatever I want to.

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It’s Orphan Awareness Month. Again.

Another month set aside for the church to show orphan related videos, hear testimonies relevant to adoption and orphan care, and an opportunity to listen to sermons where orphans are [possibly] mentioned.

I must confess. Many times I ask myself, “What’s the point of it?” “Is having another time set aside to create an awareness of the orphan crisis even worth the effort?” Is it? Will it make a profound difference?

Perhaps I have become somewhat cynical, or weary of the battle that rages for the lives of millions of children, or frustrated that help seems so slow to come, or desperate to see more and more who are willing to go. I don’t know. I only know the sinking feeling that I feel each time I look into the faces of our four adopted children and remember the millions that are left behind. The ones who are literally without hope, without life.


We’re the Christians doggonit!  We’re God’s beloved church. His beautiful bride. We’re the ones He has already commanded to take care of the orphans.

Yet sadly, we wait.

We wait for God to speak to us in an audible voice, telling us to “GO!”—sometimes He does that audible voice thing, you know.

We wait for the perfect job to come along—orphan care demands a whole lot of money.

We wait for the bills to be paid—can’t be taking on more than we can handle.

We wait for the larger house—because adding children requires a large house.

We wait for a few kids to leave the nest before we add more—can’t be having too many children in the home.

We wait for confirmation with the perfect scripture to drop into our spirits as a sign that we need to act now.

We wait...for someone else to go.

We wait, we wait, we wait.

And while we wait—they perish. The statistics are staggering. I can’t even look anymore.

This is the horrendous reality...


Why do we find every reason under heaven and earth why we should not go? The Bible is as clear as daylight—“care for the widows and the orphans.”

It’s a lot like missions. My heart aches when I see how many churches don’t have a fabulous missions program. God’s Word says to “Go into ALL the world and make disciples of all men.” It’s a command! It’s non- negotiable. Taking care of the orphans is a command too. We’re commanded in His word to care for them—however that may look.


But still we wait for “the call” to come. Kind of like, “I am SO glad Mrs. Jenkins is called to lead children’s church, because that is DEFINITELY NOT my calling.

Ouch!

God hardly ever calls us to do things for Him when everything in our lives is just grand. He never calls us to walk on the water when our circumstances are sweet. When I look in the Bible, I see people doing things for the Lord in the midst of impossible circumstances. Tougher than what my circumstances have ever been in my entire life. Yet, they did it. In obedience. The Lord commanded them--and they went. They accepted the tough task that lay before them—come what may. They never asked the Lord for a re-commission.

So why in the world do we? What makes us so different to the people God gave us to learn from in the Bible?

Why are there so many uncared for orphans in the world when we’re commanded to care for them?


We would be wealthy if someone paid us every time we have been told that we were “called by God” to adopt our four children who have special needs. Or for the many people who have told us that “There is no way we could do what you do.”

I disagree.

You know what that does? It diminishes God’s sovereign power to do the impossible through each one of us, His people. Comments like that tell the Father, “Sorry God, but you don’t have enough power to give me the ability to parent a child who struggles in life.” “So sorry, God. Just go and call someone else.” “Oh God, and that mission field thing? There is no way I could ever do that!”

That’s perilous ground to walk on.

God’s power is absolutely made perfect in our weakness. When He commands us to do something, He equips us with everything we need to fulfill the calling with excellence. Even people like us--ordinary sinners saved by grace who are just average Joes. He does it for His glory! To make Himself famous in the earth. It has absolutely nothing to do with us. Everything God does is for His glory, not ours.

I believe with all my heart that God is raising up an army of crazy people to do the ridiculous. Many believe we are living in the end times. We agree! We sense that more than ever God is looking for those who are willing to do the impossible. Just WILLING! God is seeking out those who will serve Him with reckless abandonment, no matter where that takes them or what He tells them to do in this life.

Reckless abandon for the sake of His orphans...simply because they so desperately need US.  Come what may.

51 sweet thoughts from friends:

Jamie said...

Good post. You forgot to mention what to do when someone is more than ready to follow Jesus' command but their husband is NOT. (the answer is: pray for softening of his heart everyday and for individual orphans. depend and lean on Jesus) btw I'm sending this to my husband, thank you for writing it.

groovy mama said...

I am so WOW right now, you WROTE that wonderfully!
Thanks for sharing that, hugs
Donna
i just posted this quote below to my blog...

Orphans are easier to ignore before you know their names. They are easier to ignore before you see their faces. It is easier to pretend they're not real before you hold them in your arms.
But once you do, everything changes."
~ Anonymous ~

I am one of those people that HEARS the call, in fact 'he' is tapping on my shoulder, but my hubby is always HARD to get 'it'....

Annie said...

So, so true Adeye!! What a wonderful, true post! I wish more would "get this" and answer the calling!!!

Linnea said...

Oh Adeye, why arent the orphans cared for? Why dont people see? Why do we blog and they read and then hit x and go on without ever doing anything? How do I learn to hold my tongue, to not scream? How do I hold myself back when all I wanna do is shake them? I wish I could be better. I wish I could change the world.

Thank you for the blog.

Be blessed
Ashlee

Beckyb said...

A resounding AMEN SISTER!! Wonderful and inspiring words - thank you!

Sally-Girl! said...

reckless abandon for His children reckless abandon for the life He gave us to use for His good reckless abandon because it is the only way to live!

Love you Adeye!!

babyarnie said...

AMEN!! Thank you for your eloquent words and for leading this fight to save orphans.

Freedom Hollow Farmgirl said...

Beautiful post sweet friend. Mercy, the tears just kept flowing today as I cried out to God, my heart is breaking being in this holding pattern in our adoption. So many sweet precious little ones all alone in orphanages with no one to love them.

Here come the tears again!

Blessings,
Suzanne

Mari Bryant- Marks said...

Your words are.... I can't put into words. They bring me to tears. My husband hasn't been told by God to adopt yet. So in the meantime a friend (who is in the process of adoption) and I are starting an Orphan ministry at our church. Thank you for the reminder to work harder and faster.

Mom to 9 Blessings! said...

AMEN! Praying for hearts to hear the call of God and do something about it!

Love you!
Jill

Jennifer said...

Once our eyes are opened, we cannot pretend we do not know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and knows our souls, knows that we know and holds us responsible to act. Prov 24:12

Kate said...

Woo Hoo! You speak Truth, girl!

People who consider themselves Christians need to read these words... they need to be made uncomfortable and they need to stop making excuses for not doing the right thing that they know darn well they're supposed to do! PERIOD!

I am SO standing behind you on this post... 100%!

trustandobey said...

If you do a word study on "call", you won't find it associated with adoption or caring for the widows and orphans. It is simply a command for the Body of Christ to follow. In the Old Testament, nobody considered themselves "called" to this duty, they ALL knew it was EXPECTED that the people of God would care for these groups of the less fortunate. How have we strayed so far???
Lisa

Andrea said...

Standing ovation here! I am with ya!! We need to stand up and take notice... we have been given much... the biggest gift we have been given is the LOVE of the Lord...boundless, ever reaching, ever present LOVE... He has poured it out on us. Let's pour it back out on those that Jesus loved the best... :)

Fiona said...

Amen! Thank you for this. You put the thoughts of my heart into words. I really needed them too because I wanted so much to explain to my mother why we are adopting our 5th child and she just totally does not understand it. She asked me to please tell the adoption agency to stop sending us information and pictures of children.

Thank you and again AMEN!!

Piper said...

Amen!!! Your post has moved me to tears. Oh how I long to expand our family with such beautiful blessings. Unfortunately, I think my hubby is still waiting for that "audible voice" you mentioned. Just gotta keep praying!! Thank you for your example and speaking up for those who have no voice. What a blessing you are to the millions of orphans around the world, and to my heart.

Anita said...

Amen!!! Thanks for sharing what others simply don't want to hear or see.

Anita V.

Jody Britton said...

thank you for your words. this is my first stop at your blog, a friend sent me this post. i just wanted to ask if it was okay for me to re-post your words on my blog (directing people to your blog of course...) thank you for your heart!

expressmom said...

I am humbled by your ability to do the right thing and not just talk about it.

I know I should do more.

I have linked to your post on my blog. It is the smallest thing, but I hope in some way it shines more light on this important issue.

soontobemomof9 said...

Well said Adeye! Well said!

Renee said...

BEAUTIFULLY put :o)

connie said...

Oh, Friend, why is it so easy for us to stay out of the trenches when it comes to loving God with our very lives?!? Great truthful post. We need to stop giving God our 'leftovers'. Oh, how faithful He is!

A-Team said...

Adeye, I am one who has felt for a while that the Lord has called us to adopt, but my husband was not in the same place. I sent my dh a copy of your blog yesterday and tonight he told me we are putting your yes on the table. I am thrilled and scared all at the same time. Now we are praying that God will show us the child He wants to be a part of our family.

Sophie said...

Oh dear Adeye, I love this post,it's so sad but true
Caring for the orphan or anyone else in need is not a "calling" it's not for the select few, it applies to every Christian.

A said...

I am struggling with "convincing" (not the best word) my husband that adoption is right for us. He is a great man who grew up in church, with a strong Christian family. We have a great missions program in our church, but nowhere are orphans mentioned. My husband and his family think sending money once in a while is "good enough".

Thanks to you and your family for making 4 less orphans!

Jill said...

I will be back to read this again and again...TRUE, TRUE, TRUE!!

Jill said...

my favorite post you have ever written (besides julia's miracle fundraising)

Anonymous said...

This is an AWESOME, AWESOME, TRUE post! Thank you for writing it. I have shared this post. To GOD be the glory!

Jenni said...

Amen, amen, and amen!

Anonymous said...

For the posts about husbands....after much nagging on my part and wondering why my husband didn't feel the same "calling" as me, I took a friends advice and stopped all adoption talk and just prayed daily. After about 9 months....I was sitting in our dining room working on a puzzle when my husband called out from his office "What do you think about Romania?" Now we had moved many many times so my first thought was....Oh no, he wants us to move to Romania. I called back, "Nice country, I guess...why?" He answered, "I sat next to a man on the plane who had adopted from Romania and I figured if we are going to adopt we probably need to start working on it," I'll never forget that moment....we started the process right away... We still had lots of huddles to overcome...he lost his job soon after...another move...but a few years later we adopted our youngest 2 from Russia. So start praying and expect a miracle!!

Mama in Uganda said...

Wow!

The Holy Spirit is speaking powerfully through you in this!

I see it written on every line.

Its the heartbeat of the Savior.

If He was willing to redeem us by His own blood, shouldn't we be willing to redeem these children?

Love it friend, your passion, the truth.

Love from the North,
Summer

Tami said...

Thank you so much for putting into words what we all should be saying and more importantly, doing! As the mom of four internationally adopted blessings, you would think I would have already done this by now, but I'm getting ready to get on the phone and call my pastor, to see if there is something we can do this Sunday to bring up spur our church on to follow this command from God. Thank you! :)

Tami said...

BTW - I hope you don't mind but I've reposted your post on my blog (with a link).

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Donna-Jean Breckenridge said...

A hard truth, beautifully written.

Thank you.

Karin said...

I LOVE this post. Thank you for saying what needs to be said--over and over. It is not enough to be aware of orphans. We need to DO something. Hugs!!!

Autumn said...

May I repost this on my blog?

schoolmother said...

Yes, I am wondering if it would be Ok to put this on my blog, too??

Sarah said...

Whoo! That was powerful. I would like to link to this from my blog, if that's alright.

Duane and Carin said...

I came across your blog yesterday and today I started reading an amazing book called Our life together by Jean Vanier. I love how God works things together to get our attention...
My heart is to adopt a sibling group here in Bolivia where we currently live, but now I wonder if we should adopt special needs children....?

benzbaby said...

Wow. what a powerful and heart-touching post. thanks so much for sharing.

your family is beautiful.*

Natalie said...

I hope it is okay, but I linked to this from my blog. I am facing the challenge of trust and acting with reckless abandon for the Lord in my own faith journey.

Thanks.

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Following Forward said...

Hi! I came across this post and your blog about 4 months ago and God has used it to radically change my heart and to change the course of our life. I tried to contact you through the blog but could not for some reason. I wanted to say thank you and share with you my new mission for orphans at www.dunlaplove.blogspot.com.

Thanks for being real.

Anonymous said...

love it.

rebecca said...

AMEN!!!! I couldn't have found the words quite as eloquently as you just put it, yet you spoke straight to my heart and I couldn't agree with you more. For 6 long years I've been asking the Lord to please send us! I want to adopt so badly I ache for it. While my husband isn't closed to it, his pants haven't been lit on fire just yet. We've been close twice. Paid the initial fees twice. Backed out twice. (long story, but knew it just wasnt right). We've had all the lame excuses that you just described. What are we waiting for?!

rebecca said...

AMEN!!!! I couldn't have found the words quite as eloquently as you just put it, yet you spoke straight to my heart and I couldn't agree with you more. For 6 long years I've been asking the Lord to please send us! I want to adopt so badly I ache for it. While my husband isn't closed to it, his pants haven't been lit on fire just yet. We've been close twice. Paid the initial fees twice. Backed out twice. (long story, but knew it just wasnt right). We've had all the lame excuses that you just described. What are we waiting for?!

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