September 16, 2014

everlasting joy

I am so thankful to all of you who have reached out to ask me how Hasya is doing after her recent bone break.  Thank you for caring.  It really means a lot to me.

We had her cast removed about ten days ago.  The first few days after that were rough.  Her tiny bones are so fragile and the area where the break happened is still very swollen. She still can't straighten her leg all the way, but we're told that's to be expected, and it could be that way for several weeks.

Thankfully, Hasya turned a corner a few days ago and she is doing so much better.

She's back to being her happy, content, delightful self.

We are so grateful that her doctors are finally listening and we've been referred to a specialist who will hopefully do something about her brittle bones.  Enough is enough!  Her appointment is only in November, but we're so thankful that it's scheduled and hopefully we can get some answers and some relief for our beautiful young lady.

What a blessing this little love is to us!  She is pure JOY.

Truthfully, there was a time when I wondered...

"How will you restore joy to this child, Father?"

"Is it even possible, Lord?"

"You promise Hasya in your Word that joy does come in the morning...but will it?  Really?"

Such little faith.

He has taken her sorrow, her pain, and her absolute brokenness and He has done a NEW THING.

The old is gone.

And the new is here (2 Cor. 5:17).

Does that mean that the journey is easy and we never face trials?  Of course not!  It means that we embrace the trials and the hard times (through tears and broken hearts and with fragile faith), we press on through the challenges, and we trust our God who adores this child so much more than we ever could...

...and that He who started a good work in her will carry it on to completion. (Phil 1:6)

"Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs forth now. Don't you know it?"  ~~  Isaiah 43:19

Yes, I do know it.  I see it every day.

He's such a faithful Father to our Hasya.

September 15, 2014

blessings, trusting, and settling

Don't you just love it when God surprises His children with gifts you never saw coming?  My heart has been so challenged in so many ways lately.

Yesterday in church as I poured out my heart to the Lord--so needing encouragement from the only ONE whose opinion really matters to me--a man approached me.  We go to a small church and I cannot remember ever seeing this man.  He gave me an envelope and then just walked out of the building.

Anthony and I opened the envelope to find a donation for our adoption.  Such a beautiful gift from heaven and encouragement to our hearts.  God's way of saying, "I'm still here--in all the details, in every decision."  Sometimes it's so reassuring to know that He is near.

Always there.  Always faithful.  Always moving the mountains that stand before us.

We are so thankful that God has gone before us.  As with every child who has been added to us through the blessing of adoption, we're trusting Him every step of the way.

I thought I would address something here because of all the opinions and questions I'm getting. Many have written to ask me how many embryos we are transferring. We haven't made a final decision yet.  We have reached out for wise counsel and are in communication with our clinic and together we'll do what's best for our matter what that looks like. As many of you know, there are many factors to consider as we seek God on this.  We know He'll lead and guide us with every step we take toward December 11.  I absolutely trust my Father's sovereignty and the fact that He already knows the outcome of this adoption.

He who holds my family in the palm of His hand knows what's best for us.

That is where my peace lies.

In other news, God has been so faithful to us in this season.  After months of looking, last week we submitted an offer on a house and it was accepted.  Glory hallelujah!  The cost of property is so much more here than it was in our old town.  Finding a home that was big enough for our growing family and had some land seemed impossible at one point.  We finally found a fixer upper that needs a whole lot of work (think old blue carpets everywhere), a kitchen that my grandmother would have been proud of in the 70's, and lots more updating.  But it has the acreage that we so wanted for our family. Having some land became so much more important than finding the perfect house.  We looked at so many houses in newer neighborhoods, but we longed for the same amount of land that we had at our previous home.  We loved living in the country.  And so we settled on a modular house a little farther out than we originally wanted to go, but it has the space we want (ranch style with a basement which is awesome for Hasya's wheelchair) and the land we love--it just needs some TLC to make it a home that we love.

We're so thankful that God has given us a place to settle our family again.  Goodness, I am so excited to finally be able to get our furniture and belongings out of storage too.  Yeah, it's just stuff, and I have learned to live without it for thirteen months now...but it will be so wonderful to make a home again. 

His goodness amazes me.

Thank you to all of you who have blessed Jacob.  He has been so crazy blessed by your love and generosity.  My man and my young men were able to go and spend some time with Jacob today.  We're standing and trusting for his complete healing, in the name of Jesus.  You can read an update on his situation on his mom's blog HERE.

Have a very blessed week, everyone.  Know that He who carries the weight of the world on His shoulders is more than able to carry yours too.

September 9, 2014

pressing onward

I am so grateful that so many of you have reached out to encourage our hearts and express your support of our upcoming adoption.  No words can express how much it means to us!  I have received many e-mails asking me for more information about embryo adoption.  I'm sorry I haven't had time to answer them all yet. Most of you want to know the same thing and so I'll address them as blog posts as I'm able to.  I am no expert at this yet as I am learning as we go, but I'm more than happy to share what I do know with you all.

Our journey to our four newest blessings is moving along and we're thankful that God has gone before us and is moving every obstacle that stands in the way of these babies being given a chance.  The good news is that we have been given a transfer date.  Glory hallelujah!

December 11 is the date that God has ordained for these precious babies to be transferred into my womb.  That will be almost exactly ten years after they were frozen.  I will soon begin the medication to prepare my body to receive these tiny little darlings.  Prayerfully, it will go well and the side effects will be minimal. Then I'll travel out of state to where they are and have them transferred there. We did have the option to move them to Colorado, but by going there we save $2000 and that seemed like the wisest thing to do. Plus, I have heard such incredible things about the doctor at this clinic.  He has a very high FET (frozen embryo transfer) success rate and we want to give these embryos the best possible chance of survival. 

Some have asked me about being able to contribute financially to this adoption. I hesitated for many reasons. But after much prayer I have set up a place where anyone who would love to be a part of these four babies' journey out of the test tube and into HOPE can donate.

We have had absolute peace that God is faithful and more than able to take care of every need that we have and every mountain that needs to be moved.  It's just one of those times when we have to trust in His sovereignty.  When my heart wonders what the outcome of this will be, when I think about how long these babies have waited and what their chances of survival are....He gently reminds me of the ONE thing that matters...


When we're obedient, He is faithful.

"And all these things will be added unto you."

Thank you for choosing to journey with my family.  Though some truly do not understand why we would even consider doing this, so many more have reached out in love.  For that we are so very thankful. Really!  Your comments of kindness and support have touched me so deeply. 

"I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." ~~ Phil 3:14

September 2, 2014

ten and twelve

Last Saturday we celebrated two birthdays.

God always knew that these two were meant to share a birthday--their story one only their creator could write.  You can read part 1 HERE, and part 2 HERE.

Father God never makes mistakes!

We had a wonderful day out celebrating with our lovies.

So, so much fun!

It has taken Hailee four years, but she has finally decided that bouncing is quite alright.

While one pretty darling prefers to observe and laugh at her siblings.

And cheer them on.

Another could go on all day long.

Over and over and over and over and over...

Sweetest little cutie pie.

"Do we really have to smile, Mom?"

Happy, happy birthday my precious darlings.


A super fun day...

And a three second power recharge for Little Miss I-can-never-ever-sit-still.

Ridiculously blessed by the Father's most perfect gifts.

August 29, 2014

our response, I'm old, and other things

I finally have a few moments to try and answer some of the questions you have asked me about our most recent journey in the Lord. 

I knew that our announcement would be met with many opinions--some very supportive and encouraging, and some not so very nice at all. Seems that our latest journey has caused quite a stir.  

On Christ the solid rock I stand!

For those of you who have reached out in love and support, I want you to know that it means the absolute world to me and my family.  You guys are such a blessing to us!

So, why in the world would Anthony and I even consider this journey?  What about all of the unknowns?  What about the big IVF debate? Or, as someone put it, "Adéye, please reconsider your decision. IVF, artificial insemination bears much bad fruit. Embryos are eliminated because there are too many, now they do sex selection, many precious girls are never born because of this. Science is not always a friend to Gods' ways. Because we/they can do something doesn't always make it right. By hosting these frozen embryos you are encouraging and playing in to the Culture of Death. Don't listen to the evil ones voice that loves to see the destruction of Gods' Precious Ones."

I thought I would share my heart on this issue. This journey to adopt embryos is NOT about IVF. That is a completely different debate. I realize that everyone has their own opinions about whether IVF is right or wrong (just as people have opinions about all things).  This is not about that!  We're not creating more embryos.  We're not playing into any "Culture of Death."  On the contrary, embryo adoption has everything to do with LIFE.  We're giving someone a chance to grow who already HAS LIFE and can become all who God has created them to be.  I can't see how our decision (and I hope many others who choose this option as a way to grow their families) to adopt embryos will encourage more people to go through IVF.  People will always do what they feel is best for their families.  Infertile couples will always turn to IVF (just as they have for many years!). IVF will always be there and so will hundreds of thousands of children who are the consequence of that.

So, as the Church--the bride of Christ who is commanded to care for the widow and the fatherless (James 1:27), what should our response be to this overwhelming problem of there being over 600,000 precious babies frozen in this country alone?  I asked the above commenter the same question.  What should we do about the frozen babies who have either been donated to fertility clinics or various organizations that accept donated embryos because the genetic family no longer wants them or their life situation changes and they cannot use them themselves? What do we do about the precious families who are reaching out to others to adopt their remaining embryos? Do we leave them there--frozen in time?  Do we just accept the fact that many will be donated to science or be "discarded" (literally thrown in the trash!)?  Do we turn a blind eye to the fact that thousands will be donated to the next scientific experiment?  What is our role in this growing problem?

If we truly believe that life begins at conception--if we believe that at that moment of fertilization we have LIFE--then these are babies.  They are LIFE.  And as the body of Christ, we are called to care for them too--just as we would any child.  I don't care how they got there.  I don't care how they were created.  I'll let God be the judge of that. I have never walked the painful road called "infertility" and I am certainly not going to judge anyone who has made their own decisions. My only response is to care deeply--even if I don't agree with how they were created.  If God ever called us to open our hearts to a child who was conceived out of rape or something else that we disagreed with, I would never, ever turn my back on them and say "No, thanks!" simply because of how they made their way into the world.  It's not the child's fault, and punishing them by not opening our hearts to them is just not the heart of my loving, gracious, merciful God at all!

Some have asked me if I shouldn't rather be a surrogate mother and give these babies back to their genetic mother. I cannot share her story.  That's hers to tell.  But I can tell you that this is her only option--the best thing she believes she can do for her babies.  The greatest gift for her would be to have a precious relationship with any live births that may come out of this adoption.  My heart longs to give her that!

And then there are these thoughts..."I believe life begins at conception too and don't believe in abortion except in really special circumstances but to me an embryo without a beating heart is secondary to the children already alive and living in orphanages. It's hard for me to think of possibly creating more special-needs children when there are so many already born and needing a family." 

And, "Why don't you just go and adopt another child who is already born?  They need families so much more than embryos."

Well, if indeed you believe that life begins at conception, then it's a CHILD.  And no, we're not "creating more special-needs children"...they're already created.  They're there!  Frozen.  Waiting to be given a chance just like any other child who is waiting in an orphanage.  These babies deserve a chance just the same as any of our other special-needs children did.  No different.  Life is matter how small!

I have also been asked often whether I'm too old to carry a child. Heck, if God called Sarah to be a mother to Isaac when she was 91, I think I'm going to make it.  I am fit, healthy, and more than able to carry a child.  I trust in my Father's sovereignty--when He calls us by name, He equips us with everything that we need for the journey--and to do it well.  Will it be easy?  Probably not. You just have to read the Bible to know that any journey that God calls us to is rarely easy...but always, always worth it!

I asked the Father for just one thing in this life...His perfect will in our lives...not the easy road.

And finally, I have been asked many times how I will feel if these babies don't survive.  So here's the thing.  I don't know what the outcome of this will be. It's different to adopting a child who you know you will hold in your arms (although, even that doesn't go according to the way we hope sometimes). I don't know whether we will have a live birth.  No clue.  These babies have already been frozen for ten years.  They have many obstacles to overcome before even one of them survives in my womb.  But once again, I trust. Completely. My peace lies in the fact that the Almighty Father is writing a beautiful story in all of our lives--no matter what that looks like.  Whether these babies have life here on earth, or fullness of life in heaven, that is in the hands of the ONE who holds all things in the palm of His hand.  Whether God is simply giving these baby's genetic mom a gift in knowing that someone is willing to try and give her special children a chance, or whether His plans and purposes for their lives are to be born, well, that's all part of the journey of faith.  

The dignity of the matters!

"The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, this faith, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It’s our handle on what we can’t see."  ~~ Hebrews 11:1 (The Message)

We're pressing onward--embracing all that the Father has for our family.  We're standing with arms wide open--ready and willing to do His will--no matter what, no matter when, no matter how, and no matter how difficult it may become.  

With our shaky faith, and with all of our flaws and imperfections, we'll say yes again.

We're willing. 

Everything else, we'll leave in His capable hands.

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