November 2, 2010

apples, imperfection, and pure joy

Fall in Virginia is absolutely stunning.  I cannot help but marvel at God's creation at this time of year.  It really does take my breath away when I consider that everything I see, He did for our pleasure.  Every changing color, every leaf that falls to the ground, every rainy day to water the dry ground after a long, hot summer.  It blows me away when I ponder how very well the Father did it all.  Instead of giving us one season, He gave us four to enjoy.  It truly is one of the incredible wonders of God.

On Saturday we went out for the day.  I needed time with my friend Rachel, and my kids needed time out of the house after a busy week of school.

The Apple orchard.  Just an hour from where we live.



Three little treasures enjoyed their very first year at the apple farm.  Whew, was I thankful that I actually remembered to take warm clothes at the very last minute.  I literally ran back into the house once all the kids were loaded in the car and grabbed a few woollies.  It was by far the coolest day we have had in months.



I totally laugh when I get e-mails from friends asking me, "How do you do it?  How do you keep everything together so well."

Ummm....that would be a no.  I'm here to tell you that I hardly ever have things together all the time.  Hardly a day goes by when I don't forget something at home (usually diapers, wipes, or sippy cups).  Or...ahem...forget a child.

Yep.  I confess.  It happened.  Last week I popped over to have a cuppa with Rachel.  It was getting late and I still needed to get a meal (of the frozen kind) on the table.  I literally shoved all the kids into the bus, and off we went on our merry little way.  We were heading out of the driveway, when one of my kids said, "Hey Mom, where's Haven?"

"She's right there at the back," I said confidently.

Surely she must be there.  I mean, what kind of mother would forget their kid at their friend's house? 

Surely not I.

So I keep driving.

"Mom, seriously, Haven is so not in the car!"

Ooops.

I reversed and sent one of the kids to run back in and find the missing member of the family.

There she was, playing quietly in the bedroom with some toys.  She never even realized we had left, nor did Rachel know she was still there.

The joys of having a silent child...and a very imperfect mother.

I hardly ever have it all together, friends.  If it looks like I do, I'm really just faking it.



We loved our apple picking time.  The scenery was beautiful, and the company perfect.  Even though I was missing one of my big boys who had his first ever Scout camping trip all on his own, with no one else in his family with him. 

Heck, I must seriously have been missing him because we bought some lunch at the apple farm (who can resist some junk food every now and then?) and I kid you not, I bought seven meals for my kids.  Seven.  One whole meal for a kid who was not even there.

Ay-yi-yi!  Sometimes I do the dorkiest things.

I'm sure we humans give God so many chuckles as He watches over us.



The workers hauling the fruit of their labor up the hill.



The biggest pink marshmallow in the northern hemisphere.  Aint she sweet?



Harper has definitely hit the toddler years, I'll have you know.  She is into every cupboard, every computer, every make-up drawer, every toy she is not meant to have, e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g.  Harper has become curious about the world around her.  She cannot sit still for a single second.  Up, down, up, down, up, down.  As she begins to find her feet and learn to walk, I'm thinking that a few more months on the ground may actually not be such a bad thing. 

The time has come for everything to be lifted up and placed on higher ground...Harper is almost walking.

Look out world--the cutest marshmallow is breaking loose.



Thankfully she has two big sisters to run after her.  Well, make that one big sister--the other is not really into the babysitting thing.  Haven much prefers to sit and observe...and laugh at the silly things her baby sisters are learning to do.  She is learning from her little sisters.  I love it.

How blessed I am to have these two beautiful girls in my life.  They just make life simply lovely.



So, as I shared in my post on Sunday, we spent some time at the Schwenzer's church.  It was such a sweet time in the Lord.  I probably should have told you though that Carey and I are not wearing matching shirts.  I know it looks that way.  In this photo we're actually standing in front of their computer which is projecting their blog onto a screen behind us.  Matching shirts would have been pretty cute though.

We headed home in the afternoon, making our way down the busiest interstate in VA.  All of a sudden we hear this huge bang, and the next thing smoke starts coming out of the hood.  Not a good thing--even dummies like us, who know less than zero about cars and the way they work, know that smoke coming from the engine means serious business.

As we made our way over to the verge, Anthony and I could only but laugh.  This was the third time we have broken down in less than a month.  This time was just a little trickier considering we were stranded on an ultra busy highway with seven kids in the car. 

Thankfully, one call to the AAA (who know us by name by now), and help was on it's way.  In a short while we saw him pull up in front of us.

Alrighty then...slight problem.  You cannot take our bus and leave us stranded on the side of the road as we wait for our friend to come and pick us up.  Surely not?

And all nine of us are NOT going to fit into that cab thingy at the back of the truck.



Next thing we knew, the nice man was calling for back up to help with multitudes who needed transportation.

Whew. Help arrived and we were on our way.



I think about this often--sometimes yukky things happen to God's people.  As of today we are without a large car for our family.  The cost of the repair far exceeded what the van was worth.  It was not worth putting any more money into that car. And so here we sit with no vehicle for our family--and very limited means to purchase another one.

But God! 

There really are no guarantees in life, are there?  Other than the absolute assurance we have that someday we will be reunited with Christ, everything else in life is so absolutely uncertain.  We never know from one day to the next what will come our way.  There is no guarantee that life will not throw us a curveball every now and then.  On the contrary, the Word of God promises us that the trials will come our way.  We're warned about it.

But here's the thing.  When things get a bit wobbly and life is not going as smoothly as we would like, we're commanded to "consider it pure joy" .  A few translations say to "count it all joy" whenever we face trials of any kind.

I fail.

Fail again.  And again.

Pure joy?   All joy?

So. Not. Easy.  I'm not just talking about our lack of a car--that is such a small thing to be concerned about in the bigger picture of life. But finding joy in all hardships.  Getting to that place where the joy of the Lord truly is our strength. To that place where absolutely nothing can steal our joy! I have such a long way to go before I am there--where my faith is so rock solid that it cannot be shaken.

I am reminded today to not only praise God in the storm, but to trust Him for the impossible, with joy in my heart.  And that's exactly what we're doing.  Praising God for His faithfulness in advance.  Trusting Him for His perfect provision in our lives.  After all, He has never, ever, not once, ever, let us down.

This really is just another amazing opportunity to trust Him for something which, in the natural, is impossible. 

Trials are such a great faith builders.  We're learning to embrace them.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.  Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.   James 1:2-4

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Today is a huge day for me.  I get to vote!  Woohooo.  I'm an American now.  What an honor it is to be able to vote today.

25 comments:

Angie said...

Ummm...you're not the only mom to "forget" a child. OK...I didn't actually get out the driveway, but my sweet, quiet child was still playing happily in the house while the rest of us were strapped in, pulling out for church! Can I use hectic Sunday mornings for my excuse??

Kristin Ferguson said...

Love the pink marshmallow girl and yes your household will definitely be in an uproar as ours is with Nadia needing to be watched every second! I can't believe the trusty bus is being laid to rest. I'll be praying for God's provision in this area!

Now go vote. I was #2 at my polling place. :)

Anonymous said...

Ha ha, such funny stories - so glad to know that other people also don't have it all together all the time and none of us are perfect, just human. Enjoy the voting, South African, Australian, American ;-)Love Janelle

Five Cajuns and a Fundraiser said...

Thank you, Adeye, for reminding me that we should consider even the hardships pure joy. My husband's family has been working 24/7 to derail this adoption and I let them steal my joy. Thank you for reminding me it is not theirs to steal. If my joy is in the Lord, who can take that from me...

Love wins,
Renee Tam
5cajuns.blogspot.com

Jean said...

I love the response- I fake it! Me, too and bring along a sense of humor and a lot of faith and by golly it just works out!! Thank you Jesus!!

So sorry about the car... a bit of a bummer but it will work out.

Congrats on voting- enjoy!!

Lovin your marshmellows!!

~*Brittany*~ said...

oh, how I feel your pain with the car situation. We just went through the same storm and had NO car to get us any where. I'll share what one of my blessing of a friends told me: "His word says that the earth is his and the fullness there of, he also says that He owns the cattle on a thousand hillsides, a car is no problem for him! "
It's nice to know we serve a God who holds it all! Praying blessings for you family, God will meet your need.

annie said...

Oh my, what a post! I can imagine what a blessing it is to have the help of Hannah-Claire. Big sisters are a blessing to little ones (which, by the way, I want to scoop up and squeeze! - oh those pics!)... And thanks for the reminder about praising Him in the storms. You know, I consider myself an optimist, but just a few downers can get me in a rut.

Thank you, Lord, for the trials we are facing. I know You will use them to shape and mold us into better tools for Your work.

God bless you today, Adeye and fam.

rarejule said...

So sorry to hear about your van. I will pray something comes along swiftly for you to be "on the road" again!

And the child left behind... my husband is one of 11 and he was left behind at a grocery store. To this day, they all laugh about it... we're all human indeed!

Hugs & love from the Midwest.

groovy mama said...

What a lovely day, it appeared to be, even if you may have 'forgot' something!!! your children are so precious and very pretty! I look at your HAVEN and her pretty little face reminds me of my little daughter who is also from Nanjing!

Happy Fall
Donna

Brenda said...

You said so many things in this post but what stood out to me was your kid's clothes! :) My girls had the same coat Harper is wearing. I loved that coat. I wish they could still fit it and were little! And my younger daughter has the same shirt as Haven. :)

I only have 2, but when I have my nieces too...I feel like I'm counting heads all the time. I would totally forget one if I had 7. :)

Redeemed1 said...

I left my son at church once. My husband and I drove separate and we both thought the other had him, so we were already home before we knew he wasn't with us.

The McEacherns said...

Is Harper's sweater pink? It looks white, and we have an IDENTICAL one from Ukraine. They dressed our daughter in it on our second day of visits. She looked adorable, and at that moment, I knew my husband was completely smitten. They gave it to us as a parting gift. So adorable! And now I need to go vote, too!

Tony and Rett said...

Adeye, you make me grin, tear up, cry, laugh, and learn all in one post. How DO you do it? Oh yeah, you were created by a perfect God!

Love you friend!

Anonymous said...

Oh that Harper is so cute, I want to eat her up! I just love reading your blog, I look forward to it everyday! Thanks so much!

Lisa V

Renee said...

Oh I hear you on the faking it. Our eldest son was telling me Sunday Night that the youth pastor's wife asked how I seemed to be so stress free. HA! I asked him if he ratted me out.

Love you, Love your family! Great pics!

trustandobey said...

Hi Adeye!
If it makes you feel any better, I left Olivia at the theater about 2 weeks ago. Got all the way to the car with the other kids and realized that I was one short. Had to run all the way back and find her. Spent the next 2 days apologizing to her. Sign me up for the "Mother of the Year" award!
Lisa
ps-so sorry to hear about your van!!!
pss- I need your Va address.

Holly said...

We forgot our boy too!! We actually left the house and were about 10 minutes away when we realized it!! We rushed home, mortified that we could have done such a thing, and he was only 5 or 6, and he was still in the basement where he had been, playing the Wii, totally obvlivious that we were gone. And I never thought I would admit that to anyone, and here I've admitted it! And yes, yes, yes, you are so right about having joy in the midst of trouble. God will provide for your needs! It's fun to see how how He will do it! So happy you were able to vote today. So exciting!

Nicole said...

Thanks for the verse.. I haven't had much joy lately... My sister, Joy, was killed accidentally by my mom just over 3 months ago.. Grieving is a crazy place to be. I'm also struggling with the work I have and it's time to change (though I've only been there for 6 months)... My joy is about worn out.. I've been struggling with God for why this has all happened every day lately it has been harder and harder to turn to Him.

The Liebers said...

My family and I just went to that same orchard two weeks ago! What a blast!! I have been making my 6 month old baby food and was very proud to make him homemade applesauce from apples his brother and sister picked! :) Hoping that your transportation issues get solved quickly!

Aus said...

Wow - you really covered some ground here! Let's not talk about forgetting a child....but don't feel too bad about it - I assure you that you are not alone!

Great pictures - love that pink marshmallow, too cute - and those other lovely girls - wow....

May your 'bus' rest in piece(s) - sorry - couldn't resist....I'll offer up a prayer that someone reads this one and works something out for you!

And your thoughts about 'perfect joy' - are you sure you aren't a Franciscan? ;) We're all human - we all loose sight of the goal from time to time - don't work yourself too hard on that!

And finally on voting - thank you - a very personal thank you - for recognizing your duty as an American to excercise this freedom - check my (infrequent) blog post from yesterday for a glance at my reasoning!

hugs to all - aus and co.

barbara said...

I love your thankful heart; to the glory of our wonderful God!
Thank you.

Cammy said...

Think of you every time I drive anywhere and praying that God would provide you with some form of transportation!

Cammy said...

Thinking of you guys anytime I drive anywhere, and praying that God will provide you with some form of transportation, or the finances you need to get your van fixed, or a new one.

Angie said...

Thanks for sharing. Not that it is funny in the traditional sense, but your story about leaving Haven behind gave me a slight chuckle as it reminded me of something that happened to me as a kid. My family and my uncle's family took a road trip to Mexico when I was about 8 or so and I actually got left at a gas station. It was only for a minute, but my mom will still swear it didn't happen. I think she's just embarrassed. My parents thought I was in my uncle's SUV and my uncle thought I was in my parents' SUV. Turns out they were both wrong. I was using the restroom at the gas station. Yikes! Luckily they looked in each other's windows as they were driving back onto the highway and headed straight back. I was just walking out of the gas station. I was scared I was going to get in trouble. (-: Hehe... I guess it happens to more people than you'd think.

Ginger said...

Ok, this is pretty funny: we have the exact same van. Assuming yours is a 15 passenger.
My friend left her sleeping son in the van when we got together w/ several families. Luckily it wasn't hot outside, but man she really struggled with guilt over it. Made it a lot less fun to make fun of. ;)

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