I have many days when I feel like my ability to extend grace and mercy has completely run dry.
So. Darn. Human.
I love blogging. I really do. For the most part it has been a fabulous experience for me. I love sharing my heart, my family, my photos, my hopes, and my dreams on these pages. But blogging absolutely does not come without its trials and challenges; most of those being an opportunity for me to learn and grow and become more like Christ, of course. Still, there are times when I ask myself, “Is this all worth it?”
I often think about how wonderful it would be for bloggers to NOT have to put comment moderation on. And perhaps some day I will get there-to that place where I feel like I can allow wicked, mean, blasphemous, and ungodly comments to be there for public viewing. But I’m not there yet. I am still of the firm belief that they have no place on this, a Christian blog. So I continue to hit the delete button faster than I even get to the end of reading revolting comments.
For the most part, I am very able to extend much grace and mercy to those who feel that they have to bring their wicked words to this or any other blog for that matter. I read about this stuff happening often in the world of blogging. I know that for those of us who blog publicly, it is just part of the deal. You open up your life and your heart-and you attract the negativity from ones who have absolutely nothing better to do with their days than sit at a computer and spew hatred. It’s life in a fallen world, I guess. Now, I’m not talking about disagreeing with respect. I totally welcome comments that disagree on my take on things that I write about. I never started blogging in the hope that everyone would agree with my opinion. That would be ridiculous. We are all different and see things uniquely. Disagreeing respectfully is totally different to spitting out hatred as some obviously love to do.
Grace and mercy.
Yes, most of the time, I can extend much grace and mercy. I can see these people through the eyes of my Savior and truly say, “Forgive them, Lord, for they know not what they do.” I don’t care what people say about me or my hubby. We know who we are in Christ and stand before an audience of ONE. The words will never harm us personally. We laugh about some of the asinine things people come up with.
But oh my goodness gracious, when the comments that get sent my way are a vicious personal attack on my children who have special needs…that’s when my grace and mercy tends to run out. That is completely unacceptable and pathetic! Even in a sinful world-attacks on children who have any kind of special need are totally uncalled for. They are wicked, malicious, and completely evil. What kind of human being feels that it is perfectly acceptable to call a child with Down syndrome horrid names? I just do not understand. I don’t understand how someone can even think that it is okay to do that. IT IS NOT OKAY! It is sick.
It is not okay to ridicule any child, let alone one who struggles in this life.
It is not okay to call children who have special needs the most awful names under heaven and earth.
It is not okay to sow hatred-especially when innocent children are their target.
It is not okay to say things about those who are unable to fight back. It is cowardly!
IT IS NOT OKAY!
I have thought about this post for a while. I tried to let it go. But Anthony and I are the ONLY voices for our children who do not have a voice. We’re IT. We’re their advocates. We’re the ones who will fight to the death on their behalf. We are all they have in this life. When it comes to this stuff, I will not and cannot be silent. I AM their voice. And this is not okay.
I do have to wonder about these people who come and sow their hatred here. I mean, would they say the things they comment to my face? Would they? Would they look my beautiful little five year old girl with Down syndrome [who has endured five years of hell on earth] in the eye and call her “frightening” to her face? Would they? Do they truly get such extreme pleasure out of the evil that comes from their hearts? Or, are they just so broken themselves that they have to find someone else to hurt (always anonymously, of course)? I have come to the conclusion that stalking blogs sure has given people like this a way to intentionally hurt others and stay nameless. No name, no face. How sad when they have to stoop so low to include children in their heinous endeavors.
How dare they mess with God’s beloved children? That’s dangerous ground to walk on.
I cannot help but weep for my angelic little girls. To know that this is the kind of thing they will have to deal with their entire lives breaks my heart. I can only imagine what it does to the heart of their Father in heaven. Oh my goodness, how did the world ever stray so far from His ways? Sadly, this is life. It is what the world has become. I fear that things are only getting worse and worse.
Come quickly, Lord Jesus.
Though I know that I will never be able to protect my children one hundred percent of the time, I for sure will do everything I possibly can to ensure that words like the ones I have read being commented NEVER find their way to my daughter’s ears (or their hearts). Never! I will go to the ends of the earth to ensure that they are safe and protected from people such as these.
Our children with special needs deserve respect-just like any other child. They are fearfully and wonderfully created in the image of a God who does ALL things well.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Luke 6:45
Your children are beautiful treasures from God. I’m sorry for the cruel comments that you’ve received.
Lyn
If you need any moms to stand on the front line with you, shoulder to shoulder, against such sad and evil people - you can count on me!
I may be in Europe but I would be there in a flash to help you.
Thank you so much for sharing the Miracle of Haillee and Harper.
They are proof of God’s love..maybe that is what the evil commentator can not cope with? Just a thought.
Dear Adeye,
I am a reader from the Netherlands and I just wanted to let you know that you have a beautiful family!!!
Kind regards,
Flora
Oh my goodness! I cannot believe there is such hatred in this world. Adeye — you are an AMAZING advocate for your children. I thank God for people like you on this earth.
it is ignorance is all!! your children are beautiful and an inspiration!!
I have followed you blog for quite a while now, and I must tell you that you have the most darling children I have ever seen. Each and every one is sooo precious. There is such a change in the youngest 2 since they found their way “home”. Their eyes just sparkle and shine! Awesome nurturing!!!
So sorry that you have gotten such comments.
I have never allowed anonymous comments on my blog. If someone has something to say … than they need to own up and tell me who they are.
Laurel
AMEN!
Sorry precious friend for the hurtful things anyone has said to you about your blessings and gifts from the GOOD LORD ABOVE!
Love you and big hugs,
Jill
It hurts me to know that things are being said that are unkind. I never understand the odasity of some people. I am sorry people are hurting you. Hugs.
Be blessed
Ashlee
Oh sister
Tears came to my eyes as I read of the hatred and evil that you’ve had to read about your precious treasure.
I pity the person the day they stand before Jesus and He has them answer for this.
“Vengenance is mine,” says the Lord. He’s got your precious treasure’s back!
Blessings,
Suzanne
BRAVO!!!!! First of all you are right it is not okay. I have a nephew who is severly Autistic and my husband has a cousin with Down Syndrome, and let me just say both boys bring great joy to our families and are blessings in deed. And anyone who is not capable of seeing this, well I just don’t know what to say other then they are evil.
Secondly, it also bothers me when I see people post nasty comments on someones blog. I understand that people some time differ in opinions but there are people out there who’s sole purpose is to try and destroy others. The other day I was reading a blog and someone had left a nasty comment - I followed the link to the commentor’s blog to find out that he had a whole blog dedicated to making nasty comments on people’s blogs. Who does something like that? Are they that lonely or bored that this is the only thing they can come up with? Or maybe it’s jealousy.
All I think we can do is continue to spread love and pray that some day they have a change in heart as well.
Again, this is a wonderful post BRAVO!!!
Sandy
Amen. That is all.
So sad, isn’t it, that posts like that even need to be written?
You are so right dear friend, some things are just not okay, calling any child wicked names is evil.
These are just evil attacks from satans ghouls.
“Take up the shield of faith with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.”
Eph. 6:17
Keep up the good work Adeye you are an amazing ambassador of the Lord, and your family is beautiful and blessed.
I am so sorry that you have been exposed to such nastiness. We just sat in church yesterday & the whole message was based on a series (Practical Atheist…a person claiming to be a Christian, but behaves completely contrary to what Christians are supposed to be). The meat of things yesterday was all about relationships, & what you have described is exactly the type of epidemic that is running rampant in this world of technology. Somewhere, relationships become unhealthy & cowardice behind the protection of a computer screen, text message, etc. I dare say you are right that the types of things that people feel so entitled to type would not be spoken if they stared you in the face.
Disagreements are part of life, but as mature adults/Christians, we can resolve conflict in a healthy, respectful fashion. However, slinging garbage anonymously is not about some difference of opinion. It’s about cowardice, & it’s not appropriate no matter how it is justified. Period.
I am proud of you for taking a stand for what is right!
Such cute girls!!! I cannot believe someone so sick can call such little angels horrid names!!! I love reading your blog and I love seeing how these little girls have changed in the time you have had them. Well done to you and your hubby!!
Hmmmmmm….my guess is that those who spew this kind of hatred can’t imagine how we can look at your absolutely beautiful family and see God! I feel for them that they are so broken.
Your children are so lovely and a true testament to Jesus’ healing touch! I am always so excited to see new pictures of your darlings. I absolutely cannot even believe the change in Hailee, it’s nothing short of miraculous. I’ve gone back to your spring posts just to compare and contrast her little face. She is surely a treasure as are all your sweet ones.
Keep, keepin’ on. As you said, hatred is part of this broken world. So very sad for those with that much hate in their hearts.
:-(.
You tell them momma!!! Amen!!!
I am sorry you have had to read such ugliness. No clue why some people are so filled with hate and discontent. 
Oh my word. Seriously??? Anyone who would #1. attack over the internet is a coward. It takes more strength of character to close an internet window than to type out a few rude statements. #2. fight back by attacking innocent, defensless children is an even worse coward!
I am so sorry you have had to go through this! There are some things we should never have to face.
Girl I cannot imagine. really. I just want to encourage you RIGHT NOW and let you know that because you have opened up and shared about your journey, OUR family has opened our hearts to the possibility of saying YES to a child with Down Syndrome. You are a light in the darkness friend and the darkness hates the light. I am so very sorry that you have obviously gotten some twisted comments. How anyone could look at ANY of your children and see ANYTHING but TREASURES is truly beyond me. I think you have some of the most beautiful children God has ever created.
love,
Holly
It upsets me greatly to hear that there are such cruel people, who give you nasty comments about your precious children! Their poor lives must be so entirely black, inside and out, to do such a thing
Shame on them.
I’m not a frequent commenter, but I started reading your blog when you were picking up your girls after being referred from another blog (can’t remember which one). It truly hurts my hurt to hear that you have been subjected to hurt like this. There is just no excuse for people who act like this. We can only pray that their eyes are opened and hearts are softened someday. I just want to encourage you to keep doing what you are doing. I am 27-years-old and have been married for over 6 years. Because of blogs like yours, my husband and I have started talking about adopting a child with special needs-even before trying to conceive a child ourselves. So you are making more of a difference than you know. Please keep being a voice for those who don’t have one!
I’m appalled. I have only commented once or twice on your blog, but I find your family so inspiring. Your children (all of them!) are beautiful creations of our Heavenly Father…Fearfully & Wonderfully made. Those precious girls are beautiful. My 4 year old was looking at their pictures with me yesterday saying, Oh what pretty babies. He’s so precious. He doesn’t see their “needs”, he sees their beauty as God intended. I’m sorry that people were so small to attack your precious daughters. I can only see God’s grace as I see them growing stronger and more beautiful by the post! Hugs from a fellow adoptive momma!
We think the world of you and your beautiful, exceptional family. You inspire us! For years my husband and I hoped to adopt, after finding your blog, we finally commited to the process. Not in Ethiopia like we planned, but in Russia to a little girl with Down’s Syndrome. Paisley (listed as Valeria on RR) will have a family because God planted the seed in our hearts and finding your blog nutured what He started. Thank you for sharing your family, even though it’s a pain sometimes.
Sincerely,
Renee
5cajuns.blogspot.com
your children are absolutely beautiful!
Dearest Adéye,
Even though I am not a Christian, I am a loyal reader of your blog and you are an inspiration to me in the way you love and live with your children. I too am horrified about the narrow minded, evil comments of a lot of people-not just on blogs, but basically on any website with a comment option. It makes me wonder how idiotic the human species has become. And I always hope that the amount of hatred and vicious commenting is not a reflection of the hearts of the people in the world.
I am deeply grieved that you have to endure such vile, nasty comments about your sweet little angels. I absolutely adore Harper and Hailee, Hannah-Claire and Haven, and your precious boys too, of course. Please allow me to send you some love for and about your children, who are beautiful blessings to this world in every way. Small as they are, Hailee and Harper have opened my heart and put a lot of hope into it. And, inspiration aside, they are precious, cute and adorable. One only needs to look into their sweet faces and beautiful eyes to know it.
I hope that your words will inspire those who so thoughtlessly left nasty comments. Even if only one of them wakes up from reading your post, it will still be worth a lot. I believe you are making the right choice to stand up for your children, and I applaud you for it.
Sending lots of love and an encouraging hug,
Maaike
I am so sorry about the horrible comments your have been getting. I may not agree with everything you blog about but the love you feel for your children is something no one should say anything unkind about. Your love is pure and shines through on each and every post.
Andrea
Oh Adeye
I am so sorry for your hurt. I know our Father sees and it IS dangerous ground for people to call any child names but I would certainly think it is more dangerous when we are talking of God’s precious ones like your sweet babies. I think comment moderation is necessary and I appreciate it. I like knowing I can come here and not see profanity and hate. However I am sorry you have to wade through it. Maybe someone could help you out so you would not be always reading such wickedness? I am sure it is draining on you as well! Keep up your hard work you are doing beautifully. I am not ready to adopt yet but who knows maybe some day? I love watching and praying for you and your babies and feel that maybe I too have a small part in rescuing the orphans. You always remind where my priorities as a SAHM homeschooling mommy follower of Jesus are supposed to be. Thank you for being you!
Elizabeth
I have a gazillion things I want to say…but yet I’m speechless.
Unbelievable.
All I can say is that we serve a fiercely protective sovereign and just God.
Anyone messing with His children, He does NOT take lightly.
Love you so much, sweet friend.
I have been reading your blog for a while. I’ve never really felt compelled to comment, but I certainly feel led to after your post today. I am a 21 year old, senior in college. I have a huge heart for the orphan and those with special needs. I am looking forward to marriage and being able to adopt some precious angels- maybe even with special needs — myself. I follow several adoption blogs to see and learn about adoption on the personal, familial level.
Your blog is without a doubt one of my favorites. I truly appreciate you opening up your life and your heart to the world. I also appreciate how you are so raw and real, and refuse to sugarcoat everything. Your passion for our Lord and Savior is also obvious!
Your blog has given me great insight into the life of a mom who has adopted. I have no idea where God has me headed in the future, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it involved the adoption of at least one precious child with Down’s.
Just wanted to say thank you for your blog and for being a role model for me!
In Christ!
Emily
I can’t believe it! I’m so sorry for you Adeye, I am sure it’s not nice for a mama heart to read that kind of comments. How can they no see your girls as the sweet angels they are? Don’t pay attention to them
Adeye, Your so right, it is not OK. I work with the people who can not care for themselfs, actually cant do anything more then look around. I feel the same way you do. It is our job to take care of the less fortunate than we are. I cant tell you how much I have enjoyed reading your blog with all of your children. You are blessed! I wish I was so much closer to you, I would be there daily to give you a helping hand!
Oh my goodness Adeye. I am so sorry you have been getting ugly comments. I KNOW that whoever it is would not have the strength to say ANY of it in person.
You can disallow anonymous comments on your blog.
Kiss your beautiful babies for me!
I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure such terrible comments from people! That’s truly tragic
I’ve mentioned your family (and blog) to a number of friends, but always as a story of hope, encouragement and God’s love. I know, without doubt, that God has used your family to spread love, joy and truth. I hope that you will not be too discouraged! God bless…
I pray for you that you keep having the strenght to fight for your girls. You are doing a great job, you both. As for the mean ones, well, I guess they must really be in a low place in order to be mean to children.
I’ll keep on praying for you because you are a wonderful woman. Keep doing what you are doing.
Marie-Claude
Montreal
This breaks my heart into pieces. It times like this that I want to protect my children in a bubble and not let anyone in…but then they would never see or know the beauty…so sad and so sorry Adeye!
I’m thanking God that your children have a voice in their defense! Your children are ALL beautiful!
I’m a “lurker”….I’ve followed your blog for months and I 100% support what you’re doing. Don’t let these “isolated cases” get to you….they are gonging symbols and worthless….your little Downs girls are perfect little people and if I wasn’t old I would seriously consider doing what you do. As it is, my 30 year old daughter who also follows your blog is inspired to “maybe do it” sometime in the future. My husband and I adopted a little Korean baby 35 years ago. Adoption is in our blood with prayers for those that do it!
It really makes you wonder what their lives are like to make fun of a sweet little girl. I mean really, who DOES that!?!
My name is Kaitlyn, I am sixteen and I have been reading your blog for about six months and I have loved readig your life story on here. I can not belive sometimes the things peole say behind a name on the computer that they would never in person face to face. A family in our church is adopting three children from over seas,all of them have down syndrome, right know they are awaiting the date to go get the children. I wanted to encourage you to keep the faith and keep sharing your heart to others which shines brightly with the light of Jesus. You are an amazing woman that God has given many blessings to and everyone who is moccking you and saying awful things is just satan trying to show you it’s not worth being in God’s will when it soooo is. Never stop trustig God and never stop posting on your blog
With love and blessings,
Kaitlyn Pickens
Oh, oh, oh…the very reason that I do not blog! I would love to have the support of others who are in my shoes, but I could not take the comments from those who are less than positive. Please do not stop what you are doing. I find encouragement from your blog all the time. The negatives just want to shut up those who share on behalf of those who cannot and love the ones that others do not. God will bless you and your husband for taking a stand and running the race before you. I wish I could come and give you and your lovely littles a big hug. I think they are beautiful and you have provided a loving home for them, protected from their past. I pray that God will continue to bless your efforts! I know He will.
Tina in TX
Hailee and Harper are beautiful. Period.
I think if people leave comments in a way that hurts others, they haven’t really understood and applied our Saviour’s words:
Mat 7:12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
It is hard when hurtful comments come our way, especially targetting towards the ones that we love… I think the only way we can go about it is to be educational, because most of the time, people who do or say cruel things, just don’t understand and we need to remember our Saviour and to do as He did, He loved us while we were yet sinners and had no appreciation of Him… He was patient with us, we need to be patient with others too (not easy, I know). Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.
To make it easier on you, you can just disable the anonymous comment in your blog settings, if it is too frequent and bothers you.
Love you, Adeye, and your family
I am so sorry, and I have to let you know that I look forward to your uplifting words. It has been amazing to see your smallest ones just grow with the love from a family. They are so precious and I wish more people would step out and care for those who cannot care for themselves. It breaks my heart that people give people and children with disablies no worth. Our God loves and values them.
Holly Arnold:)
http://www.arnoldfamilynews.blogspot.com
Ugh. Adeye, I am so sorry you have to deal with this. The ignorance of people never ceases to amaze me. I am appalled that someone would say such a thing. Your children are precious and beautiful just the way they are - each and every one of them!
Adeye, please don’t ever hesitate to share your glorious moments with your family with those of us that do read for the pleasure of enjoying what you and your family experience. Some of us truly enjoy what you wright.
As a mother of a special needs child as well, I cannot fathom how someone can’t also see her beauty in spite of all her demanding needs. My little girl doesn’t have downs, but she is definitely high maintenance with health issues right now. I’d be mortified and so saddened to have to read or hear someone’s hateful words at her.
I couldn’t imagine our life without her, even with all of her needs, she will always be our little star. I’m am quite sure it’s how you feel for each and every one of your beautiful babies you have!
It’s so hard to be the better person when someone attacks your children like this. Just know that there is love out here in the blogosphere for all the precious moments you share with us!
You continue standing strong for your sweet children. Those writing cruel words are true cowards, and speaking evil, hoping to turn your mind from being joyful, to being miserable. Don’t let the enemy prevail. You brought your girls into a beautiful, loving family. God will surely reward you, and seek vengence on those who cause you and your children to stumble.
I CANNOT imagine people speaking this way. I’m so sorry that you have to go through with reading their ignorant remarks. Blessings to your entire, wonderful family!
Hello. I guess I am a stalker but in a good way. I haven’t ever written before but I wanted to tell you that I am blessed just to read your blog. I love to see the pics of ALL of your beautiful babies. Please try and not let those people bring you down. That is what they want. (I know it is hard.) Just wanted to let you know. I will continue to pray for your family. God Bless. J.
Adeye, this just tore at my heart. For someone to verbally attack your beautiful sweet blessings and spew hatred is beyond my understanding.
Come quickly, Jesus-amen sister. Come quickly indeed. Sometimes I can’t help but wish this life away to the moment when we’re all united in heaven with our Heavenly Father. No more ugliness or violence. What joy there will be!
Until then, you keep sowing joy here. I relish seeing your children thriving and blossoming. Your family is Love. And I love to see it.
Big hugs.
Elle
It saddens me that there was even a need for this post. My 2 year old has Down Syndrome and I pray one day to walk done the road of adoption and add a nother little one with Down Syndrome to our family. You and your family are an inspiration and both Halie and Harper are adorable and absolute joys. I love reading how well they are doing along with how your other children have embraced them and each other.
Sincerly-
Ellen
I think you are an AMAZING mother to all of those adorable kiddos. If it wasn’t for you and your husband, your special needs children would have never been given a chance in life. Just because someone has an extra chromosome doesn’t make them any less special than those who do not. You have a BEAUTIFUL family and BEAUTIFUL children. Keep your head up and keep up the good work. I love following the progress of your kids and to see how well they are doing.
Katie
Colorado
You are completely right it is NOT okay! I am glad you delete them. They don’t need a “voice”. Your children are beautiful-all of them are just precious and special. I am sorry you have to deal with this. I am shocked!
I read your blog and enjoy the updates on your family and generally, many of the values by which you live your life. I have never commented. This is for two reasons. One, I rarely comment. Two, I do not share your religious beliefs. I respect them and your commitment to them but I am of a different faith and live a more secular life. As such, I have felt that it might be disrespectful to comment on some of your more meaningful posts. It is your blog. You are clear on its purpose and my feeling is that it is not my place to comment, even with the greatest of respect, on areas where our beliefs do not match. Your blog is not one which calls for discussion in that respect. That said, I shudder at the idea of people being malicious, calling your beautiful children derogatory names or offering other than respectful opinions if they have a different opinion. All of your children are beautiful. They each have their own strengths and weaknesses and I have no doubt you will endeavor to help each child maximize his or her strengths and compensate for areas of relative deficit. If it is your faith that helps you to do this- wonderful. I have difficulty with people of strong faith and religious beliefs when they use those beliefs not to try and make their world better, but to justify bad behaviour or foster intolerance. I shudder at blogs where people abandon a child they have committed to adopt and do so under the guise of God’s will. I cannot imagine a God who would leave Hailee or Haven in the conditions in which they endured their early life. My point is really not to enter into theological debate. It is what I tried to avoid by not previously commenting. It is really to offer you support in the face of hurt and to let you know that respect and admiration for your family comes from many sources, not just those who share your beliefs. Some things transcend any one religion. And now I am waiting to see what new device you got for your babies.
Ellen
I recently found your blog and love it! How horrible that people would leave such mean comments, I’m shocked. I’ve seen them after articles but on a family blog, very sad.
Can you set the blog so people can only leave a comment who have a username?
Also, I think some people are very cruel and sadly they have no life and their days are spent in front of the computer trying to post the most awful, shocking, horrid comments.
Oh my I guess I am so naive I never would have thought you get feedback like that. I’m so sorry. All you can do is PRAY for those folks. I don’t think I would ever publish anything they say because that would be giving their hatred and evilness a voice and no-one should ever hear stuff like that! I don’t get it, why would anyone have anything bad to say about any of your children, special needs or not. They are ALL, fearfully and wonderfully made. They are perfect. God don’t make mistakes. I’m so sorry for what you have to put up with I send to you a BIG hug. God bless you, Anthony and all your sweet perfect children. I love you guys!
I am heartbroken with you, Adeye! A wise friend told me once when I really needed to hear it that
“hurt people (adjective), hurt people (verb)”.
I pray everyday that hearts will be softened and minds opened for our angels with special needs. We can only pray.
You are right! We need to speak up for others and especially those who cannot defend themselves! When my sisters and I were growing up we were friends with the neighbor girl who happened to have some type of mental disability. It made no difference to us. It tares me up to hear people use the word “retard” even to each other. I made it known to friends how hurtful it is and that it was NOT OK. Hopefully I made a difference long term and they didn’t just stop when I was around. Some people don’t realize the damage they do. I saw my friend hurt. She was a person with feelings.
P.S. I think your angels are beautiful!!
Sarah
I am so sorry for you to have to endure that kind of cruel behavior. Know that your family is in our prayers. I have faced a similar situation and all we can do is pray for them. I hope you find strength and courage through these obstacles.
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
—Philippians 4:13
With love,
Alysa
*sigh* Well I think we all truly know who the “frightening” people are in this case! The girls are beautiful treasures and there sweet nature just exudes through the screen. You are awfully blessed to have them and vice versa
I’m so sorry you are having to deal with those who feel empowered by being cruel. I have a special needs child so I empathize 100%. All children are blessings from God. I hope you keep your blog going as I (and many others) enjoy following your journey with your wonderful family. Your children are PRECIOUS!!
I am so sorry you have to read such things.
Makes me sad.
I’ve come to realize as I get older that 1 in 10 people have issues. They have sharp tongues, gossip or have mental illnesses. All your kids are gorgeous. The 9 out of 10 readers that are “regular folks” see it right away!! Just delete the post from the others- it’s not even worth thinking about.
How horrible! But alas - one of the support groups I belong to attracted just such a person a few years ago. After this person crossed the line and made a perceived threat against our chromosomally-enhanced children, the FBI was called in… and do you know? It turned out to be a 15-year-old boy who got bullied at school, so he came home to his computer and vented by bullying others.
I believe for the most part, the people that say nasty, ugly things feel that they themselves are nasty and ugly inside. They bully those who are weaker than they are for some strange, short-lived power-trip. I’ll bet whoever it is saying nasty things is under the age of 19, and very, very insecure.
Perhaps they will someday learn that finding a hobby or sport will go much farther to make them feel better about the world… we can only hope!
Hello, my name is Toni and I am the mother of a 9-year-old son with Down syndrome. I have followed your blog for quite some time, which I found through Reece’s Rainbow. I usually just lurk; however, I felt compelled to say something about your 9/13 post. Whatever kind of person would leave such a comment as the ones you referred to is blind - blind to love, blind to compassion, blind to Christ. It is a shame. I’ve seen the look on some peoples faces as they check out my son. It used to make me mad. It still makes me sad, but I just think to myself, “you don’t know what I have.” These kids are very special, and cute, and it’s a shame that those with hardened hearts can’t see it. I know it hurts. But you’re right - people that say such things have to say them because it makes them feel better about themselves. My fear is that, when things like this happen, people like you will make your blog private and I won’t be able to follow along anymore. I hope that doesn’t happen, because it’s people like you, seeing all you do and all your sacrifices, that make me want to be a better person and a better mom. Thank you for saving those kids! God bless you and your family!
Your family is absolutely beautiful - every single one of them. I am inspired by you.
I don’t comment very often, but I feel it is time for you to hear some good comments. I love your blog and following along with your family. I work with children with Down Syndrome and your little girls are absolute angels! You have given them a life and look at how much they have grown and changed. Don’t let the negative comments get you down! Keep doing what you do best-taking care of your children. God Bless!
Debbie
How horrible that people would make cruel, hurtful comments. You have a beautiful family and I love reading about your adventures together. Thank you for sharing your family life with us.
No - it is not OK. People are cruel, stupid, envious, hateful, mean - my list could go on. But you and I both know God is greater than all those things. Look the other way — you are an amazing family. They are probably just jealous. No one should ever pick on anyone with a condition they have no control over. Hang in there - you and your husband are doing great.
I just want you to know, for every hateful word written here, there are hundreds of people praying for your fearfully and wonderfully made children. You encourage so many people with your blog, and I want to thank you for leaving it opened to the public, so that you can reach lives for Jesus!
adeye,
your fierce and courageous love for your girls and for righteousness is Christ in you, the hope of glory! he is magnified by your right and vicious defense, he stands up for you when you stand up for Him and the least of these (see acts after Stephen stood up).
it hurts me that you have been hurt. i want to tell you to hide yourself, to not cast your pearls before swine, to instead, live in your bubble - for your tent is full of love and lots of tending to. but like jesus, you should continue to pour yourself out like a drink offering.
you are a gem. I think you make God smile.
from a mom of three babies under three (in 2 wks), a woman living at the beach in SC, who loves Christ and the Basotho of SA & Lesotho.
thank you for sharing your life. please be encouraged today.
I cannot even imagine that someone could be so foul as to say something negative about any of your beautiful children! And the fact that someone would choose to say hateful words about one of your children that God chose to create extra special and wonderful, angers me! You are a much more Christ-like woman than I am, because I do not think that I would be able to show grace and compassion to the degree that you have. I am so very very sorry that you have been hurt by truly evil people.
I’ve been reading your blog for some time and have not ever commented, but I couldn’t stay silent this time. This post just breaks my heart. Your children are beautiful and precious, and reading about them brings me great joy. I’m so sad that there are unkind people out there who feel the need to attack your beautiful family. Know that I, for one, have been positively impacted and touched by their lives.
Adeye, I’m sick to think that you have gotten comments like the ones you have described. Obviously, the devil is alive and well. I’m so sorry that you have had to experience that. I will pray with you for those who need our prayers. Blessings to you and yours, Lori
I can’t even imagine why anyone would post such things. I am continuously touched by your family. You and your husband are amazing and all of your little ones are so blessed to have you in their corner. You have a beautiful family!
Amen! You truly are your daughters’ voice and I pray you keep up the good fight on their behalf. Whatever hatred some people spread is quickly doused by the light in yours and your beautiful families’ eyes. Blessings, Lori, Iowa
You go girl!!! I agree with every thing you have said!! I dont have a blog, but I do read a lot of them. I think it is rotten how people feel the need to say nasty hurtful things, no one is making them read so if they dont like it leave. And as my mom use to say if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all!!!I found your blog at the time you were bringing your youngest DD’s home and I am hooked for as long as you continue to write. I would love to add that I think you have the most beautiful family. I think it is awesome how your families love has changed the 2 littlest ones in such a short time! sorry so long!
A big fan,Pam
I am so sorry that someone would be so ignorant as to write such horrible things. You are an incredible inspiration to me, and your children are beautiful.
Amen, you truly are the voice for your wonderful little girls. Looking at the light in each of your family members’ eyes, I pray that no one can diminish your love. The hatred and negative people out there may never come to know such an all encompassing love. They are less for their views. God Bless, Lori, Iowa
I think it is despicable the words that spew out of peoples mouths sometimes
They REALLY must have a bad life to say hateful things about the beautiful children who have no voice, who had no choice in being born with a disability.
I grew up around children with Down Syndrome as my Mom was a Special Ed teacher and what awesome, awesome children they are. I love them to pieces and my heart breaks when I hear stories like your beautiful babies who had to endure so much horrible things in their first couple of years.
I have 4 children of my own and am drawn to your blog every day to check in with your beauties! Keep up the blessed work you do!
Sorry Adeye! yes, I don’t understand the people who leave such evil spirited comments. I pray for their hearts to be changed and open to the Father of all creation!
Oh my goodness…I cannot imagine having to read those kind of comments about your beautiful treasures. I am just speechless with indignation. You Go, Adeye!!! You keep standing up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. Those who make fun of them are sick…just like you said. I am sorry you have had to endure this. Your family has been such an inspiration to me. Don’t let cowardly, heinous individuals get you down.
My sister in law posted a link on her blog about my girls’ fundraiser for baby Joy in China. And some creep left a nasty comment about how we were totally self-serving, just trying to call attention to ourselves, etc. HUH?!?!?! My girls had NO thoughts about serving themselves and were pretty much clueless that anyone thought well of them for doing the fundraiser. Urgh…
Some people are just beyond depraved.
I’m sorry that someone has tried to hurt your family. I truly don’t get what somebody could possibly gain from leaving rude comments on someone’s blog. So many of my favorite bloggers have closed up shop because of these trolls.
I’ll admit that special needs have been scary to me in the past and in some ways, they still are. Sharing my life with someone who has special needs is not something I know at all. Your girls are beautiful though and you and other parents like yourself have softened my heart and even helped me to be less afraid of special needs. Now I can see beyond the special need and see the child behind that one aspect of a person.
You are an inspiration to me, because I am a South African who DESPERATELY want to adopt a waiting child(ren) from China, but have been stopped dead in my tracks time and time again. Blessings to your family Adeye’.
I really think you are doing a great job. I think all your children are beautiful and that your blog is an inspiration. It inspires me to be a better christian. Thank you so much for blogging and sharing your life.
I don’t know if I just sent this. But, I think you are doing a great job and your children are incredible. Your blog inspires me!
Adeye, I continue to thank God for you & your family. Some day you will clearly see the entire ripple effect your life & love for God has had on others. You have truly helped my faith & been such an encouragement to me.
Thank you for speaking up on this subject! And thank you for being brave enough to open your self/life on this blog. It’s sad really that some people spew out nastiness & can act in hatred. I see them as puppets/marionettes with their strings being pulled by the enemy.
Last month my brother was murdered. I have searched deep for God’s peace, grace, mercy & attitude of forgiveness in this. Truly such people are far from God & I believe nothing can be worse than eternal separation from the Father.
As long as we have our Saviour, we have everything we need.
Blessings on your sweet family,
Gina
Amen! You are absolutely right!
I’m so sorry to hear that there are some really sick people doing such ugly things Adeye. You are doing a fantastic job and I’m in awe of what you are doing. So much so that all my friends here in Cape Town know about you!!! You just keep up the good work and I know it is difficult but try and ignore those negative people. Lots of love, Lara
I am so sorry that you had to endure any sort of darkness regarding your sweet babies. Horrible, and a reflection of the darkness that abounds. May they come to know Jesus - for the enemy is certainly having a field day with their soul and spirit.
2 Corinthians 12:15
And I will very gladly spend and be spent for you, though the more abundantly I love thee, the less I be loved.
Keep loving - keep blogging - and keep reflecting Christ, even to those who do not know love. How pitiful their life.
Charrissa
http://www.anextraleaf.blogspot.com
Hi, I have been quietly following your blog for a while, and some of your posts have had a VERY profound impact on me, and I know they must have been hard to write (I left my heart there, in particular). I think what you have done is wonderful -God’s light shining through your actions in an evil world- and while I know it’s a fallen world, I still can’t imagine how anyone could or would spew unkind thoughts about an innocent child who has done nothing, ever, to them! That is about as creepy, cruel, and low as it gets. I’m sorry you would have to endure reading through such mean filth to block/delete it, but thank you… thanks so much… for being a strong voice for these babies in spite of this!
My friend - It is the strangest thing, when I read your blog I totally sensed how you are feeling and I prayed and asked the Lord what word I could give you. I have absolutely NO idea whether this will mean anything to you but this is the passage of scripture I believe our Father want you to receive.
I know it is a long passage and you don’t have to publish it all - But take it from the ONE who loves you and your family with an everlasting love - EACH one of you.
Isaiah 41:8-29
8 “But you, O Israel, my servant, Jacob, whom I have chosen, you descendants of Abraham my friend,
9 I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant'; I have chosen you and have not rejected you.
10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
11 “All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish.
12 Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all.
13 For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.
14 Do not be afraid, O worm Jacob, O little Israel, for I myself will help you,” declares the LORD, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel.
15 “See, I will make you into a threshing sledge, new and sharp, with many teeth. You will thresh the mountains and crush them, and reduce the hills to chaff.
16 You will winnow them, the wind will pick them up, and a gale will blow them away. But you will rejoice in the LORD and glory in the Holy One of Israel.
17 “The poor and needy search for water, but there is none; their tongues are parched with thirst. But I the LORD will answer them; I, the God of Israel, will not forsake them.
18 I will make rivers flow on barren heights, and springs within the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water, and the parched ground into springs.
19 I will put in the desert the cedar and the acacia, the myrtle and the olive. I will set pines in the wasteland, the fir and the cypress together,
20 so that people may see and know, may consider and understand, that the hand of the LORD has done this, that the Holy One of Israel has created it.
21 “Present your case,” says the LORD. “Set forth your arguments,” says Jacob’s King.
22 “Bring in your idols to tell us what is going to happen. Tell us what the former things were, so that we may consider them and know their final outcome. Or declare to us the things to come,
23 tell us what the future holds, so we may know that you are gods. Do something, whether good or bad, so that we will be dismayed and filled with fear.
24 But you are less than nothing and your works are utterly worthless; he who chooses you is detestable.
25 “I have stirred up one from the north, and he comes— one from the rising sun who calls on my name.
He treads on rulers as if they were mortar, as if he were a potter treading the clay.
26 Who told of this from the beginning, so we could know, or beforehand, so we could say, ‘He was right’? No one told of this, no one foretold it, no one heard any words from you.
27 I was the first to tell Zion, ‘Look, here they are!’ I gave to Jerusalem a messenger of good tidings.
28 I look but there is no one—no one among them to give counsel, no one to give answer when I ask them.
29 See, they are all false! Their deeds amount to nothing; their images are but wind and confusion.
People who speak against God’s chosen children like that don’t know Who they are dealing with and are stepping on WAY dangerous ground.
Lots of love
xxxM
My friend - It is the strangest thing, when I read your blog I totally sensed how you are feeling and I prayed and asked the Lord what word I could give you. I have absolutely NO idea whether this will mean anything to you but this is the passage of scripture I believe our Father want you to receive.
I know it is a long passage and you don’t have to publish it all - But take it from the ONE who loves you and your family with an everlasting love - EACH one of you.
Isaiah 41:8-29
8 “But you, O Israel, my servant, Jacob, whom I have chosen, you descendants of Abraham my friend,
9 I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant'; I have chosen you and have not rejected you.
10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
11 “All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish.
12 Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all.
13 For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.
14 Do not be afraid, O worm Jacob, O little Israel, for I myself will help you,” declares the LORD, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel.
15 “See, I will make you into a threshing sledge, new and sharp, with many teeth. You will thresh the mountains and crush them, and reduce the hills to chaff.
16 You will winnow them, the wind will pick them up, and a gale will blow them away. But you will rejoice in the LORD and glory in the Holy One of Israel.
17 “The poor and needy search for water, but there is none; their tongues are parched with thirst. But I the LORD will answer them; I, the God of Israel, will not forsake them.
18 I will make rivers flow on barren heights, and springs within the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water, and the parched ground into springs.
19 I will put in the desert the cedar and the acacia, the myrtle and the olive. I will set pines in the wasteland, the fir and the cypress together,
20 so that people may see and know, may consider and understand, that the hand of the LORD has done this, that the Holy One of Israel has created it.
21 “Present your case,” says the LORD. “Set forth your arguments,” says Jacob’s King.
22 “Bring in your idols to tell us what is going to happen. Tell us what the former things were, so that we may consider them and know their final outcome. Or declare to us the things to come,
23 tell us what the future holds, so we may know that you are gods. Do something, whether good or bad, so that we will be dismayed and filled with fear.
24 But you are less than nothing and your works are utterly worthless; he who chooses you is detestable.
25 “I have stirred up one from the north, and he comes— one from the rising sun who calls on my name.
He treads on rulers as if they were mortar, as if he were a potter treading the clay.
26 Who told of this from the beginning, so we could know, or beforehand, so we could say, ‘He was right’? No one told of this, no one foretold it, no one heard any words from you.
27 I was the first to tell Zion, ‘Look, here they are!’ I gave to Jerusalem a messenger of good tidings.
28 I look but there is no one—no one among them to give counsel, no one to give answer when I ask them.
29 See, they are all false! Their deeds amount to nothing; their images are but wind and confusion.
People who speak against God’s chosen children like that don’t know Who they are dealing with and are stepping on WAY dangerous ground.
Lots of love
xxxM
Not sure if my previous comment was actually saved or not - if not let me know and I will do it again.
Lots of love
M
AMEN! EVERY child has a God-ordained purpose on this Earth and is created in the image of God. One day the people writing and saying those hurtful things will have to give an account before God for their actions and words. Until then, keep up the good faith and continue advocating for those who have no voice!
Adeye, these words also have purpose: without them you do not know how strong you are/you should be, how devoted you are to your children. If someone tell this to your face, your heart could be broken (and his nose with the jaw, of course). But with anonymous comments you get your skin thicker and thicker to make sure you will have enough power to hit if they come straight to your face. You will be prepared for that.
We love your children no matter what, just like probably you love mine. The world is full of love!
Hi Adeye,
I just read the post. We know we live in a fallen world but when we come face to face with it in this way, it really hits home.All I can think is that this person has a tortured soul and it must be misery being them. To live life so hate- filled and then to die and stand before God one day? Awful!!!!
Praise God for eyes that see what truly matters on this Earth!What a priceless gift!!!
Lisa
Hi Adeye,
Never underestimate the power of God through your blog! Many children have and are being rescued (two of my own too!) because of the testimony of your family. Adoption is war. God is not only supreme, and He cannot be thwarted! He has a sense of humor too. Think about it - these vicious attackers must read a Christ-centered blog that is always saturated with wonderful quotes directly from His word in order to spew their venom! Who’s the real “victim” here? These hapless creatures who pound their fists against an immovable God. Your children are well protected. The audience of ONE is using their stories to sow His seeds. No word spoken from His Word is ever wasted. Your family is gripped tightly in His hand and you inspire us all! Keep fighting the good fight. Thank you! Susan
HOORAH - Thanks for letting your inner wolf off the leash there for a minute! I couldn’t agree more that we are - first and foremost - advocates for our kids!
I find it hard to believe that folks like you would attract trolls - you are among the finest of the folks I’ve come to call friends. But then again - trolls do tend to attack those that cause them to realize just how bad they suck….
As you know I’ve been in safety services for all my adult life. During that time I came to know just a few things that are most always true - one is that ‘mean people suck’ and another is that ‘mean people who harm children suck absolutely’. For the last 15 years or so I’ve been working to protect these kids from these people…I so understand your ire….I harness mine to keep me motivated, I’m thinking you kind of do the same….
And finally - don’t consider yourself too ‘unChristlike’. I seem to remember at least one occasion where Christ Himself felt the anger and cleared the temple of those who were making money on the backs of the faithful…rightous anger can be a good thing….and Christ understands our outrage when it comes to protecting the innocent!
Hugs - all I can offer - but they are honest ones!
aus and co.
Sorry to hear about these mean people! I work as a supply teacher’s assisstant and most of the time I work with special needs kids….I love it so much! And I love it when I am assigne d to help a little one with Down’s…those days are wonderful, so full of love and just plain cuteness, even the high school kids with Down’s; I consider it a privilege to be with them all day.
I hope you have a great year homeschooling!
Lisa V
WOW! Just picture all of us surrounding your precious family. Not only in prayer but physically! We are standing with you…As Christians we need to seek the Lord about these things. When should we walk away and when should we be educating these folks. Jesus was NOT a push over when he was here. He stood up for the broken. We need to do the same.
When these things come up share them with us. With all of us praying how can their hearts not be changed?! Sheri
Oh, Adeye, I’m so sorry you and your beautiful family have been maliciously attacked by the evil, hateful words from someone who is obviously very broken inside. Whoever you are out there, please know that the same God who loves these precious children also loves YOU! Even if no one else cares for you, God loves you! I’m sorry you must take out your pain on an innocent child and raise up the Mama Lion in my sweet friend! Also, please note that under Adeye’s ‘comments’ section it says “Sweet Words From Friends.” If your comment doesn’t fit that category, please keep it to yourself!
Wow. I don’t even know what to say. I cannot FATHOM a person verbally attacking these precious children. I am in shock that you have been receiving comments like that! They must suffer from some real problems in their life… and could probably use our prayers.
Very Well Said! Very true it is NOT OKAY to speak like that about anyone regardless of whom they maybe! Thank God they have a strong mother & father to defend them, you are amazing parents with a beautiful family! Blessings and may God continue to protect you throughout this blog. I love reading it and it gives me great joy to see the family grow! Such an encouraging blog!
Oh, oh, oh….it’s more than not OK. It’s just plain evil. Praying for your strength today, and for conversion of their hearts.
Well said Adeye!! You go mamma bear!! I can’t understand how someone could deliver such comments. You have a wonderful family and have inspired others (including me).
Anita
mom 2 two SN
waiting on #3
Adeye, I love the wonderful comments above, especially from those like Ellen who may not share your faith but still at least practice respect for others and find you inspiring in spite of that difference. I wish to send a direct invitation to all and any rude critics who may read this message to please find some other way to relieve your boredom. Words have power - so much power that the entire universe was created by the force of them!! You may not understand this now but one day you will. Your arrows will not penetrate the heart of my friend and they will not be allowed to fester into bitterness, but I invite you to explore your own heart and the arrows that you fire at others…is that really the person that you want to be?? Seriously??
Adeye, keep fighting the fight in Faith xoxoxoxo
I have learned so much from you and your children. To hear others are cowering behind “Anonymous” and being vicious makes me sick. I am crying as I type.
We are privileged to know you, Adeye. Thank you for choosing to share your story and for being their voice!
Much love!
I love, love, love your blog! Your family is so very special and I really appreciate you sharing your story about getting your 2 most recent angels. You are all so very blessed to have each other:)
So sorry to hear that anyone would say anything unkind here.
Susan from Boston
I’m so sorry that you’ve had to endure people posting hatred on your blog. It is a shame that there are some people that have nothing better to do. And you asked if they would say these unkind things to your face…probably not, because they are cowards. Your children are beautiful! I am considering adopting a DS child from EE and love the follow all of the blogs liked from RR. Thanks for sharing all that you do! Peace, Allison
WHAT? How can ANYONE write such things about innocent children, specifically children with special needs! I’m appalled that someone would do that to you! And, ashamed!
As the mom of two kids with special needs, I’d NEVER think of doing that. I’d hope that no one would do it to me.
Prayers to you. And thank you for being above that!
I am so sorry that you have had people say such thing… it makes “the blood shot out of my eyes”, I get so angry at such stuff how could ANYONE say anything so ignorant about special needs children, especially those with DS… I am super sensitive to this, as my son, is my life and a a gift. these people are trash and will stand before GOD someday.. Things like this make me pray for the rapture to come sooner to end the evil in the world… your children, especially Hailee and Harper are beyond precious!!!
Anne
COLORADO
Thank you for opening up your lives and allowing us to love your little ones from a distance. I’m sorry you’ve had to endure horrible comments. I’m involved with an on-line support group for moms with kids with Down syndrome. We always have to coach the new moms to NEVER read the comment section of news articles that feature people with Ds. Even if it’s the most positive article, the comments are just vile and can rip a momma’s heart to shreds. Thank you for taking a stand.
Blessings,
Carolyn
You are loved… and so are those beautiful children of yours. Do not give those naysayers any more of your time or blog space. Pray for them and be done.
Blessings!
Your family is super wonderful!! EVERY.SINGLE.ONE.OF.THEM!!! I pray that the Lord would show those who are leaving such negative and hateful comments their worth to Him. I pray that they would be wooed to repentance by the love of our Father. May you have others who lift you up at this time when your emotions are stirred up.
Trina
Your children are so precious, truly gifts from the living God!
Its unfortunate, that so many people are “blind” either by choice or ignorance.
God bless!!!
Oh Adeye this post was difficult to read-I cannot FATHOM ANYbody finding ANYthing on here to make a rude comment about. Much less your precious little ones with Down syndrome.
I’ve received hurtful blog comments here and there myself. I’d be lying if I said they didn’t bother me. Blogging is great because it gives us a voice, but it’s also hard because it gives mean people a voice too.
You’re so right, it’s NOT OKAY and I am right there with you. Sometimes I think the brighter the light, the more exposed the darkness becomes.
Keep hanging in there, and I hope these horrible commenters go find something better to do with their time!!! (This kind of thing seriously makes me angry. I could go on and on. But I won’t.)
Seriously, give me a break. Who does this stuff? The world is sicker than what I originally thought. Whatever happened to the thought process that if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Your children are just precious and they are a testimony to a miracle god is working in their lives.
I just don’t get the ignorance in this world and I suppose I never will.
What a shame, to attack children, obviously they are lacking something very important in their lvies, GOD.
Again, you have posted such a beautiful blog in the midst of ugliness around. You shine and the Lord shines through you. We do live in a fellen world, it is not getting better and I was thinking - oh yes- Jesus please do come quickly. People without the Lord can be very ugly and sadly, throughout history and especially now it is the children, the ones who need protection most that are attacked and hurt. And again, your comment was what I needed today. I was just really stung by an incredibly mean comment by a relative that just really had no place and was so absolutley mean. It amazed me, but didnt surprise me. We can just keep praying. And praying for continued protection over the innocent helpless ones.
Precious babies. My heart melts each time I see a new pic of them.
Precious children, ALL of them.
I am sorry for the hurtful comments. That’s just WRONG. Some sad desperate people must not have much of a life…
i’ve been reading your blog for a few weeks now, and i’m so happy you’re called to adopt. hailee and harper are so precious (along with all of your other children), sometimes it brings tears to my eyes. i’m not christian, but anyone picking on defenseless children should be ashamed of themselves
Thank you for your honesty. Your family and encourages me that their is hope for childen out their in need of forever families to advocate for them and love them regardless of their abilities or needs.
I’m sorry that people have been making horrible comments about your children, they are all great and it is sad that people attack them. I love reading your blog and seeing all the pictures because they are all so great and all your children seem precious.
Oh my friend, I am so sorry that you are subjected to such terrible comments. I wish everyone would live by my mother’s motto - “If you don’t have anything good to say, then rather don’t say anything at all!” Special needs or not, God has created each an every one of us uniquely and really, they are attacking God and His creation. Shame on them. You are a beautiful family and your children are treasures. Love Janelle
So sorry you and your kids have to go through that. Praying that the Lord will keep you strong and fighting.
Michelle
Your entire family is a blessing to others and you have opened my heart to adoption and it is something I am praying about…even before finding your blog I always admired families who took special needs children in…now I not only admire the family but I admire the child and the struggles that they face..they truly are GOD’S children!!!!
I am so shocked. I had no idea that you were getting negative comments about those beautiful baby girls. You inspire me everyday with your love and positive attitude. We adopted(long story) our ds daughter 34 years ago and she is an absolute treasure. She is doing remarkably well and I’m sure would be an inspiration to you and others just beginning this journey. She lives in a world filled with love and yes sometimes hurt and confusion, but she is a very happy and sucessful young woman. Keep on doing what you are doing and loving those babies ….ignore the ignorant because they just don’t matter at all. You can reach me at [email protected], I would live to share my journey with you.
Our struggle is not against flesh and blood… this is a spiritual battle. Those poor people who are cruel are his tormented pawns. Satan hates Jesus, and he hates everyone who belongs to Jesus. He is treatened by unconditional love, and so that is why we endeavor to walk in it! He can never ever rob you of the beauty that clothes you and your God-given angels. Don’t even let him rent space in your head, Adeye. Love you!
I do not have any relatives with DS, and am not a Christian; but I can say with honesty and certainty that Hailee is one of the least frightening, most beautiful children I have ever seen.
I am so sorry that you receive cruel and mean comments from people. It is obviously easier in this fallen world to say mean things, but that does NOT make it okay! This is your blog and it IS okay for you NOT to publish those comments.
Whenever I look at the photos of your children I just see so much beauty in each one of them and I can see that they are surrounded by loving, godly parents. You and Anthony are amazing parents…keep strong in the Lord and He will shield and protect you all.
Rachel xx
I really don’t know how you do it. I would never be able to face or read those comments! I ‘m so sorry you have to do this! People today are ignorant! They don’t have any idea about how beautiful our kids are, and saddly they will never be able to enjoy it! It’s so sad there is so much ignorance around these days… But I think there is more of “us” the good ones than there is of the bad ones! Please don’t stop blogging, this place is such an inspiration for most of us!
And for those os you with the bad and ignorant comments GO AWAY! GO SOME WHERE ELSE!!
Carolina.
Your children are precious! And your blog is a blessing. And you are right Its Not Ok to say awful things. I commend you for standing up for your precious treasures.
Oh Adeye! You’re darlings are precious!! How could anyone say such a horrific thing. Anger burns within me, I struggle with grace and mercy when it comes to innocent children. Like my Mom says, “ALL are precious in His sight.” Oh Lord Jesus come quickly!
Mattie Patterson
Probably the evil, anonymous people who comment are graduates of our school system where we treat self-esteem as a human right. Not as something to be earned by our actions, but simply because we breath. When children display horrendous behavior seeking negative attention, teachers are powerless to do much, because we must protect Johnny or Susie’s delicate ego and self-esteem. Fast forward to adulthood and we have self-centered maniacs who find out that adult society does not have room for unearned self-esteem. No better thing to do to make people pay for not treating them as though the world revolves around them, then to stalk blogs and spew hatred trying bring others down to their level. Your children are beautiful precious gifts from God and thank you so much for being obedient and saying YES LORD!
The enemy has NO place here! Adeye, you are an inspiration to many people, especially to me. Your children are beautiful, and made just the way that the Father wanted them to be. I have pity for the ignorant people who don’t know that, or can’t see that. God bless your blogging ministry Adeye. Thank you for being a faithful servant.
Adeye,sorry about my english, i am from Argentina.I love your blog! I think that you and your husband are beautifull people with lot of love to give. Your children are precious, and so sweet. Haven, Hailee and Harper have the love in her faces, they are beautifull and is incredible the change that had. Only a very sick person can make fun of this angels or hurt them. I admire you and I am proud that the world has people like you. You are an inspiration. kisses
Adeye’, I have no idea who could ever say any of your children are frightening, especially the 2 little ones. I have to say that they have come a long long ways since being in your loving home. They are FAR FROM BEING FRIGHTENING, becuase they are 2 VERY PRECIOUS LITTLE ANGELS.
You know people who say mean things like that would not even be able to live one day like these little angels lived for 5-6yrs.
You know there is an old saying that I have learned is so very true.
“WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND!”
These people who are mean and appear to be evil with their words will one day be sorry!
Sad part is most of these people think it is funny to be ugly to others.
TO THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE BEING MEAN!
If you do not like what you are reading or looking at the pictures of this blog, then STOP READING IT!! Go be ugly to your own children or family and see how they like it. Maybe they can find a way to show you what real love is all about!
Sorry Adeye’ for writing that on the comments of your blog but this upsets me so much.
Love,
Sheila
I dare say these people that write the horrid comments have never been blessed to be in the company of a special needs child or person. What an amazing gift from God. One of my favorite people in the entire world is DS and will soon turn 23. I have known her the entire time. What a gift she is to all that have met and know her. When I need a lift, I only have to think of her.
What is frightening is to think that I could have had to live life without knowing such a wonderful gift. What is frightening is that others are never willing to learn or know this special love from our father.
Thank you for yet another wonderful post.
Oh how awful! I can’t believe people can be so cruel! You have a beautfiul family. You are one of my favorite blogs to follow! Thank you for being willing to share your life with total strangers. You are an inspiration.
I am SO sorry, sending love and prayers for you. I ask for God’s heart for other people daily, sometimes hourly if it’s a particularly trying day. I am SO glad that He is in control and I am NOT for this specific reason
Love and prayers to your children and husband, keep strong in Him.
I am honestly shocked! I can’t imagine anyone ever saying anything hateful to you or your family. You guys are absolutly amazing! Your family is BEAUTIFUL, and in no way does that mean only in spirit for anyone. Although I personaly am not a believer in things that you hold strong and dear, I find everything you write about beautiful and inspiring. I dream of a big house in the country, many beautiful children running around blessing me as by allowing me to be their Momma. When our oldest daughter was in Kindergarden she was befriended by a little boy who had many beaviour challenges. His love for my daughter really helped his teachers to see that he wasn’t the “monster” that he tried hard to be somedays. One day a handful of students decided to make fun of him for being Destiny’s friend. This devasted him. He was made fun of for the best part of who he was. I can’t tell you how this broke all of our hearts. Thank goodness this was not lost on the school, and they actually had an assembly about inclusion etc. Unfortunatly this little guy was never the same. For their grade 1 year we transfer Destiny to a special needs program at a different school, and this little boys behaviour was as such that he was no longer welcomed at the school before Christmas came. If only it were easy to share how good love and forgivness are with those who resist it so much.
Blessing of love to you and your family. Please don’t stop sharing, there are so many of us here who are so inspired by your words….we would be lost without you;)
Another RR family
I am appalled at what I read, even from other adoptive parents.
It makes me sick when I read people bemoaning the fact that a new list is out from China SN program and it is *disappointing* or *all the kids are SEVERE*.
I mean really? My mind says things that my mouth would not utter. It ain’t pretty!
All I can say is these people, espeically coming to say this on your blog, do not KNOW the blessing of a special needs child and the unique individuals they are.
I love your blog. Rarely comment but your heart and your honesty are so refreshing. i don’t really like reading blogs that talk about decorating or exercise or whatever. I dont have much reading time with 5 children and I like to read something of substance. That is what I get here! Thank you and I am in a puddle over the little girl you just shared about.
I am really struggling lately with why God does NOT always act and this is yet another situation where I wonder. How does He see the fallenness and process it all? We see but a fraction. I know the answer: He is God. Still I am struggling with accepting that bad stuff just happens and happens and happens.
Yes, Lord, come quickly!
I’ve just come across your blog through a friend’s link and am very impressed and moved by your writing. I understand how hurtful those comments can be – especially when they concern your own children.
I must admit I haven’t read through all your comments below, so maybe what I’m suggesting is no news at all, but I’ll write it anyways: Have you considered asking a friend to do the comment moderation for you? – I think it could be quite easy, just sign them up to be notified for each new comment, and if they consider one to be too harsh they quickly go and delete it before you have to see it and be hurt. Or maybe you could exchange the favor with another blogger who receives a similar amount of comments (so the workload is about the same :)) – I think you would still be angry and disappointed from mean comments, but maybe (hopefully) less personally hurt.
Anyways, I don’t know if my idea is helpful, it just came to my mind reading your entry. But anyways, thanks for continuing to write!